Forgive Me...NOT!

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel." - Catherine Ponder

I was sitting back thinking about all of the times in my life that I've asked for forgiveness or have been asked to forgive someone. People are always talking about "forgive, but don't forget" or "forgiveness is for you and not the other person". I have mixed feelings about those sayings...

Forgive, but don't forget

I think that this only works when the person doing the forgiving has the ability to leave it ALONE! Don't forgive somebody and then while your "not forgetting", you are not letting THEM forget either. Not forgetting doesn't mean make both of your futures a living hell.

Forgiveness is for you and not the other person

I totally agree that when you forgive, you are setting yourself free. The other person USUALLY is living their life not even thinking about you and you are sitting there all mad, hot, and bothered. HOWEVER, if you are in a situation where you are still trying to have a relationship with that person, whether it's a family member, friend, or romantic interest, the forgiveness IS for the both of you. Your thoughts and emotions going on inside can effect how you act towards others and most people can sense it. The tension will eventually tear yall apart.

I look back on my own relationships in life with friends and family and wonder sometimes if I have truly forgiven people for what they have done or if I have done something to someone, have they truly forgiven me? I am the type of person that if you say you forgive me, I don't like it if I feel like I am still being judged based on "the past". Forgetting to me does not mean you have to act like it never happened and not be careful, it just means you removed the bitterness from your heart and moved on with life looking FORWARD, expecting better things, not anticipating the worst. 

Personally, if you are going to continue to make me pay for what I did, then I prefer you remove yourself from my life altogether. I have enough friends and 1 less friend isn't going to cause me to crumble and die. Especially when they are making me better and you are only making me worse.

I don't even see how you could even want to still be my friend if you are still harboring harsh feelings against me! To me that is fake and I don't like fake people. IF I am going to forgive someone, I let the hard feelings go and move forward because I cannot change the past. I don't care how much you love me or how much of your "home-girl" I am...I'd rather you let me go that way we can both FORGET each other.

How do you forgive? 

Do you forget?

Are y'all both still paying for it?

Tik Tok - Ke$ha

This is one of my favorite songs to dance to on Just Dance 2, I don't even really need to look at the screen anymore...sad I know!!! I personally love party beats and this song just makes me wanna jump up and down like a crazy person!

Enjoy!

Speedy Fingers

Do yall remember Mavis Beacon? That typing program you had to do when you were younger to improve your typing speed? Well I do! I actually used to like that program and enjoyed doing it. It made me think hmmm, how fast do I type NOW? So of course my curiosity got the best of me and I found a few sites to test my typing speed.


I attempted to see what my typing speed was at TypingTest.com and averaged 67wpm which should have been 69, but I didn't correct the 2 errors I made...ugh! Apparently the average is 36 so I did pretty good. I knew I typed fast anyway because people always tell me I do. See my results below.

I also tried speedtest.10fast.fingers.com in which I got a 66 and play.typeracer.com and got a 62. So if you are a "averaging" person, you can say my average typing speed is about 65wpm.


What is your typing speed? Give it a try!

Sushi - Easier Way to Save - GEICO Commercial

So rude lol...

TLC's Extreme Couponing All-Stars Premiere WINNERS!

Warning: Spoiler Ahead!!!

Hope you guys got a chance to watch the new season of TLC's Extreme Couponing All-Stars that came on last night! I did a post yesterday announcing the premiere and gave some detail around what the new season was about. Check it out the post here if you missed it! The new season features previous Extreme Couponing "All-Stars" who go head to head in a 30 minute race to savings! All the groceries purchased during the competition are donated to a local food bank. I personally think this was a great idea and it was exciting to watch. It was kind of like being a cooking lover watching an episode of Ready-Set-Cook that came on back in the day!

Here are the rules:

1. ONLY sale items are allowed to be purchased.

2. Must spend a minimum of $500 retail.

3. 15 unique items at a minimum.

4. 3 Pre-Ordered items allowed per contestant.

5. 1 "partner" is allowed to help prepare (which includes scouting the store                            before-hand and cheer them on!

6. Sales tax is not included in the total paid since each state is different.

The shopper with the highest percentage of savings is deemed the winner. At the end of the season, the 2 shoppers with the highest percent savings will move onto the final round!

Episode 1: Faatima vs. Carla

Funniest Moment: Faatima's husband was yelling through the store "like a maniac" from the front and she started freaking out saying he was getting on her nerves.

Favorite Quote: "We gotta do it for charity and I gotta beat Carla, charity and Carla, charity and Carla..." - Faatima

Carla's Epic Fail: Lost her cart in the store!

Faatima's Epic Fail: Almost forgot 1 of her most important items, Comet Cleaner..one of her pre-orders which is suppose to give her overage to pay for other items on her list!

Once each shopper is done, they must make their way to the register and the clock is stopped. Each shopper, though they can be miles apart, must wait until the other shopper is done shopping before checking out. In the end, Carla was done shopping with 11min and 12 seconds to spare, and Faatima with 8min and 29 seconds.

And the shopper that came out victorious.....

FAATIMA!!!:

Final Stats:

Carla: 

Total Retail: $1342.76

Final Cost: $35.04

Percent Savings: 97.4%

Faatima: 

Total Retail: $900.43

Final Cost: $.29

Percent Savings: 99.96%

Episode 2: Chris vs. Michelle

Funniest Moment: On more than one occasion, Chris is whistling while going down the aisles as slow as possible and admiring the store displays...just funny to me lol.


Favorite Quote: "I don't think that she'll do that well. I don't feel nervous what-so-ever" - Chris


Chris's Epic Fail: Very miticulous and exact BUT did not realize 5min before his time is to expire that his soda pre-order wasn't brought up to the front of the store.


Michelle's Epic Fail: Left getting her large pre-orders until the end which could have been traumatic if she had ran out of time and they didn't get it to the front on time.

In the end, Chris was done shopping with 1min and 32 seconds to spare, and Michelle with 20 min and 5 seconds.

And the shopper that came out victorious.....

CHRIS!!!:

Final Stats:

Chris: 

Total Retail: $1847.93

Final Cost: $0

Percent Savings: 100%

Michelle: 

Total Retail: $526.12

Final Cost: $2.57

Percent Savings: 99.6%

Out of both shows, I didn't really have a favorite so did not really care who won, but it was definitely a good competition. Catch the next episode of TLC's Extreme Couponing All-Stars next Tuesday at 10pm where we will get to see Jen vs Joni at 10pm and Judy vs. Antoinette at 10:30pm!

30 Skills Every Woman Should Have Before Turning 30

This morning I decided I wanted to boil an egg for the first time. Sounds strange huh? Well not for me! I hate eggs! So I have had no reason to ever boil one and never cared to do so. Cut me some slack though, I can make a GREAT omelete for someone who doesn't eat eggs! 


This then got me to thinking, should everyone know how to boil an egg? That question made me wonder what should every woman know how to do? So I went to handy-dandy Google and VOILA! I found this article  called "30 Skills Every Woman Should Have Before Turning 30" on thefrisky.com. Ironically, the #1 thing on the list was "hard-boil an egg"! Well I can check that off! See the rest of the list below. I have highlighted in bold those things I have mastered already at age 26:

1. Hard-boil an egg 

2. Diplomatically tell Mom to butt out

3. Ace a job interview

4. Ask a man out

5. Send a thoughtful thank-you note (I made thoughtful phone calls tho...)

6. Listen to a friend in need

7. Ask for help

8. Effectively end an unhealthy relationship (romantic or platonic in nature)

9. Beautifully wrap a gift

10. Say “no” gracefully

11. Whip up a great dinner with the five items in her fridge

12. Forget pleasing him, by 30 a woman should be able to tell her man exactly how to please her

13. Sew a button

14. Mix a kick-ass cocktail

15. Take off her bra without removing her shirt

16. Apply lip gloss in the dark

17. Balance her checkbook (though I don't do it regularly...)

18. Create a budget

19. Find the best deal

20. Negotiate a salary and/or pay raise

21. Read a map (well enough to make myself un-lost!)

22. Hail a cab

23. Say something in French just for the hell of it (Fermez la bouche Michelle!)

24. Apologize when she’s wrong

25. Dress for her body type

26. Change a flat (or know whom to call to come change it)

27. Spot a fake (handbag, diamond, potential friend …)

28. Feign interest

29. Know what to tip on a $25 dinner bill

30. Hold a baby (Hey, someone you know is bound to have one sooner or later.)

Looks like I have gotten 24 out of 30 out of the way. 6 more to go and I have 4yrs to do it!

Where do you stand? 

How many of these have you already knocked out if you are under 30? 

If you are 30+...how many things do you have to catch up on?